Saturday, May 31, 2008

I've always wanted to say it.

Often, when people find out that my husband is in the military and was deployed, their response would be "I'm sorry".
That statement always took me by surprise.
Yesterday, I was watching E1 during her karate class. I began chatting with the mother next to me. During the conversation, I mentioned that my husband just returned from deployment and was in the military. She said, "I'm so sorry"

I replied, "There's nothing to be sorry about... we volunteered to do this"

9 comments:

Inquiries said...

Go Susan!

I don't know why some people say some of the things they do. Sometimes you want to knock on their head and inquire if there is something within.

potandkettle said...

I'm so adding that to my list of responses. It's short, simple and way to the point.

Ann M. said...

I don't know why people would feel the need to apologize, either. Your answer was perfect!

Buck said...

GOOD on ya, Susan! And, if I may ask, what was the response from the clue-challenged Karate Mom?

Susan said...

Buck, to answer your question...
she didn't say much at first, then kept asking me questions about him being "drafted" from his civilian job and why one of his MOS's was infantry when he's a biomedical engineer. (she really shuddered when I told her that he was infantry)
After class, she got into her Subaru and drove away...

Guard Wife said...

Good for you.

I'm glad you could provide her some insight that may spark some thinking on her part.

trying said...

i always find it strange when people apologize too... I'm not sure what they are apologizing for.

Great response!

Buck said...

After class, she got into her Subaru and drove away...

Somewhat enlightened, one would hope. But most likely not. I do think it's a positive sort of thing that she continued asking questions. Perhaps there's hope.

That said... My experience is those sorts of folks have their minds made up and there's nothing that will change it... short of one of their offspring joining the military. And sometimes not even then (I'm thinking of that useless "Mother Sheehan," here...).

Vypergirl said...

Way to go, Susan! That is an awesome response!