Tuesday, August 7, 2007

Asking for help

I find it difficult to ask for help. Always have. It was a hindrance in college. I never asked for help, even if I had an extremely difficult time grasping a certain concept. I’ve worked on my car and motorcycle and used only a book for a guide. Work around the house was almost always done by me and Hubby. This was a “fixer” when we bought it and we’ve done a lot.
Since Hubby’s been gone, I’ve learned to embrace the concept of asking for help. I realized that with the 3 kids, 3 dogs, and working in my “free” time that I would snap if I tried to do everything. I hired a gardener; he was already next-door every week anyhow. That was the biggest hurdle. I use to bale hay for goodness sake and now I can’t take care of a yard by myself?! It’s been a load off my mind.
Today, I had help from two friend’s husbands. Each completed a task that I could have done on my own, but now I don’t have to.
One husband took our RV in to have a smog check so I could renew license registration. The battery was dead and wasps had built a nest in the engine compartment. It was a little more of a project than he had anticipated, but he didn’t complain. I’m loaning an outdoor projector to them for their next camping trip. (we use it to project movies onto the outside of the RV)
Husband #2 routed the wires for my new TV through the wall so there is nothing distracting from my new pretty TV. I had him and his family over for dinner and swimming tonight.
I am so grateful to have friends like these that I can depend on. I feel very blessed.
As far as asking for help, I don’t think I’ll ever have a housekeeper. That’s a major step.


Butterfly Wife said...

I should probably get more help with the yard work than I do. I think I will put that off until spring though.

Marine Wife said...

Thanks for stopping by! Just so you know, my kiddos are 3 and almost 7 so my nursing days behind me!

Good for you for realizing that you don't have to do it all and that it's okay to ask for help. As for the housekeeper... I have someone come in about every 3 weeks. I only have the 2 girls so the house doesn't really need a lot of work. It's not that I can't clean the bathrooms, but with Hubs gone, it sure is nice to not have to deal with them.

liberal army wife said...

I didn't ask for enough help during this past deployment, and I wish I had gotten a cleaner once a month. I do have someone to do the yard (I get migraine from being over heated) and that was a HUGE weight off me.


TripleE said...

It's been a real growth experience for me believe it or not.

ABW said...

I think this time I am getting someone to come in at least once a month to clean for me. I better start cleaning the kids' rooms so they will be able to see the floors!